Tuesday, December 16, 2008

It's not fair to the other ones...

Let's just be honest here: you can only fall for a woman so much when you're constantly thinking to yourself that you wish that the woman sitting across from you was a different woman.

Argh! Is it possible to get some sort of procedure to expunge feelings for someone who has chosen not to be in your life?

Bah-humbug! (And heavy sigh...)


Scott Lyons said...

HT to one of Fred's sites today, a quote from Perelandra:

«One goes out to the forest to pick food and already the thought of one fruit rather than another has grown up in my mind. Then, it may be, one finds a different fruit and not the fruit one thought of. One joy is expected and another is given. But this I had not noticed before — that the very moment of the finding there is in the mind a thrusting back, or a setting aside. The picture of the fruit you have not found is still, for a moment, before you. And if you wished — if it were possible to wish — you could keep it there. You could send your soul after the good you had expected, instead of the good you had got. You could refuse the real good; you could make the real fruit taste insipid by thinking of the other.»

- Perelandra, 68-69

Not that women are fruit, certainly, but an applicable truth for much of what we do as we dream and desire and tentatively move forward and try to live.

Dan said...

Thanks for the comment, Scott--it's certainly apropos. I was thinking about this last night some more as I headed to bed and realized that when I find the right woman who God has in store for me, and I need to trust Him to cause me to desire her as if she were the only one. I could very easily see my life as a life that would not want to be with any other woman than Meg, and be content praying for her happiness, but there is indeed something to be said for trying to live.

I'm going to be thinking about this passage the rest of the day, so thanks.